What’s the most important aspect of a family? It’s the children, most parents would say. Couples will say the relationship that exists between members of the family should be protected above everything else. That means parents and children should communicate well to resolve issues.
What if your issue is a divorce? Can the family talk through it?
Parents in Albuquerque often make the mistake of thinking they know better than their kids. While the decision to divorce is yours and your spouse’s to make, children may feel things you don’t understand or expect. They are in the middle of a crumbling relationship. Let them breathe and come to terms with your decision on their own time. To ease the process, introduce your divorce attorney to them and keep them updated on the changes to the family.
Children turn to their parents when they need help or when they have questions they can’t figure out themselves. Even though you and your spouse have decided to end the marriage, both parties should reassure their children that they will be there. Some divorced couples still manage to get together for a family vacation to help the kids. You don’t have to do that, but being on good terms with your ex-spouse helps everyone move on without negative feelings.
You’re not your spouse’s partner anymore. They can date someone else, and you will have no say in it–unless the children are involved. You may also start a new relationship. The same goes for your children if they are old enough. Divorced parents should not overcompensate by limiting their children, especially when it’s disguised as your form of caring for them. They are growing up, and you cannot stalk them on Facebook forever.
Your family does not have to crumble after divorce. Keep the relationships intact so everyone still has a supportive unit behind them.